Firstly, I 100% agree with Nancy.

Secondly, my first relationship was a secret too. I was 14, he was popular, I wasn't. He wanted it low-key because he didn't want to deal with the gossip, teasing, etc, around it or so he said. I carried that insecurity with me for a decade. Because in my head - it was me. I wasn't enough. I wondered if I imagined the whole thing.

Third, I'm so sorry Marcia. As I've said before, I'd give anything to give young you a hug, be her friend, and kick Rodney while I'm there. Wonderful, vulnerable, storytelling. It reduced me to a puddle of tears and healed my broken bits at the same time. Thank you for writing it.